Sex positive psychotherapy for people ready to thrive. 

Stephanie "Vee" Van Fossen, LPC-S

*Virtual and In-Person Options available.

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Sex, Desire, Communication, & Intimacy: Understanding & Empowerment in Relationships

"But love is like a language. If you speak it, it flows more and more easily. If you don't, then you start to lose it."


Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson


“I invite you to think about ways you might introduce risk to safety, mystery to the familiar, and novelty to the enduring.”


“our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something we do.”

 

― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel


“But when we reduce the conversation to simply passing judgment, we are left with no conversation at all.”


“When marriage was an economic arrangement, infidelity threatened our economic security; today marriage is a romantic arrangement and infidelity threatens our emotional security.”


The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel


“Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual?” 


Sue Johanson


“We don’t ask when people age out of singing, or eating ice cream; why would we stop making love?”


Ashton Applewhite


“I have tried sex with both men and women. I found I liked it.”


Dusty Springfield

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Gender & Sexual Identity: Live Your Story

“He allowed himself to be swayed by his conviction that human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them, but that life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”


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Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel García Márquez



“But here’s the remarkable thing about self-love: When you start to love yourself for the first time, when you start to truly embrace who you are—flaws and all—your scars start to look a lot more like beauty marks. The words that used to haunt you transform into badges of pride.”


Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story by Jacob Tobia

 

“Don't you ever let a soul in the world tell you that you can't be exactly who you are.”


―  Lady Gaga 


“Who would I be if I unlearned everything I had learned without my permission?”


―   Punch Me Up to the Gods by Brian Broome

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Anxiety, Anger, Trauma, & Depression: It's Time to Know You are Enough

“It is more like carrying something really heavy, forever. You do not get to put it down: you have to carry it, and so you carry it the way you need to, however it fits best.”


“The part I wanted them to understand is that these equations can implode, constricting your whole life, until one day you're sitting in a locked steel box breathing through an airhole with a straw and wondering, 'Now? Now am I safe?”


 —   Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture by Roxane Gay


“Not everything that weighs you down is yours to carry.”


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Anonymous


"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good Oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood."


―     Nina Simone, 1964; The Animals, 1965


“When angry, count four. When very angry, swear.”


―     Mark Twain



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Hi, I'm Vee (she/her)

I'm a Texas-born product of a former Marine Corps, liberal trans-woman and a conservative, southern school teacher who divorced when I was in grade school. Of course, that is a gross underrepresentation of the full spectrum of both their personhoods, but you get the picture. Just like you, I started out in this world steeped in my own family's culture as well as my community's social norms. As you might imagine, between Mom, Dad, and society, those values and expectations were all over the board, and often clashed. I tell you this because my origins have allowed me to do some solid work to define and live according to my own values, which translates to the insight, compassion, and curiosity I bring to our sessions.


At this point in my life, I recognize that I carry the privilege of a white, middle aged, straight-passing ciswoman; and I recognize the accountability, work, and responsibility to learn and amplify other voices that comes with it as an ally and an anti-racist. 


I'm also a mother, a stepmother, a daughter, a sister, a partner, a friend, a gardener, a cancer survivor, and (of course!) a fully licensed and experienced therapist who loves what she gets to do for a living. Within all of that, I understand that your experience is uniquely yours, and my foundation allows me the opportunity to hold space and support you while exploring, growing, and connecting with what's meaningful to you. 


I bring myself, as a human, to our work together, alongside my years of experience and education. While I am continuously reading, researching, and learning up to date information that gets applied in our sessions, I am not a textbook, or a psychoanalytical robot. Our relationship is a therapeutic tool in and of itself, and I invite candor, humor, and genuine connection. 

Fun fact: Studies have shown that swearing can actually reduce stress and increase pain tolerance! 

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