Affair Recovery

Rebuild Trust. Heal Betrayal. Restore Connection.

Whether you're a couple in the acute aftermath of an affair, a hurt partner finding your footing, or an affair-involved partner ready to take an honest look at what happened, Garden Space has support for you.

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My approach to affair recovery

My work is warm, respectful, collaborative, and compassionately candid. 

Trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), I work from a three-phase integrated framework that also draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), and Interpersonal Neurobiology.

*Please note: The three stages described below reflect a broad arc of recovery, not a linear sequence. Most people navigate these stages in a nonlinear way, often finding themselves in more than one stage at once, cycling back through earlier territory or jumping forward as healing continues. Wherever you are is a legitimate place to be.

PHASE 1

Stabilizing. This phase names the trauma and focuses on establishing containment, safety, and communication structures that reduce reactive cycles, support collaboration, and create conditions for deeper relational work. Without this foundation, subsequent phases cannot hold.

PHASE 2

Understanding. Here we develop an honest, transparent, shared picture of what happened and why. We explore both individual and relational vulnerabilities with accountability and care. The clarity built here is necessary for making well-considered decisions related to commitment, connection, and intimacy going forward. Click HERE for a free reflection tool on Remorse, Accountability, & Repair.

PHASE 3

Rebuilding. In this phase, the understanding you have developed will support you in making a decision about how to move forward, as individuals or as a couple. For those that re-dedicate themselves to one another, we apply actionable strategies to continue fortifying trust, cultivating intimacy, and maintaining relational security over time.


Formats for couples and individuals

Standard 50 minute sessions, weekly or biweekly, couples or individuals.


This format fits for those who prefer to engage the process at a steady pace that allows for reflection, processing, and relating between sessions. This format is often recommended for individuals.

Extended 90 minute sessions, weekly or biweekly, couples or individuals.


This format fits when the standard format feels too compressed to settle in, or when sessions feel like they end just as something important starts to surface. This format is often recommended for couples, especially in the early phases of affair recovery work. 

A note on individual and couples therapy

I work systemically, which means that even when I have an individual in my office, my clinical radar still considers how they shape and are shaped by their relationships. With that said, individual and couples therapy can complement one another, but they serve different purposes. Attempting to serve as both for a relational system creates an ethical conflict that can undermine trust and blur perceptions of bias and allegiance. I want you to have a couples therapist who is equally dedicated to both of you and your relationship goals, and I want you to have an individual therapist who exclusively centers your individual experience.

Couples Work

The relationship, itself, is the client here, and the high level goal is to cultivate something more authentic, resilient, trusting, and secure than what existed before. The invitation in couples work is to collaboratively assess the wreckage, keep what's salvageable, leave what's not, and build something new.


Individual Support for the Hurt Partner.

This is your own therapeutic space to process the betrayal, manage overwhelming emotions, rebuild your sense of self, and orient to what you need and want. This option may be the best fit for you as a supplement to couples work, or if you need to clarify your own experience and needs before you're comfortable engaging in joint work. Individual work also has its own value, regardless of your partner's engagement or the relational outcome of the affair.


Individual Support for the Affair-Involved Partner

An individual therapeutic dynamic for you as the involved partner allows space for you to take an honest look at yourself, your relationship, how you got here, and what genuine accountability looks like. This may be the best fit for you if you want to understand yourself better, clarify and center your values, develop the capacity to sit with relational pain, and connect with remorse instead of shame. Whether this is preparation for the joint work, a complement to it, or simply a path toward personal growth, individual work has its own value regardless of your partner's engagement or the relational outcome.

Intensive format for couples

Affair Recovery Intensives offer a focused, accelerated way to heal after infidelity, rebuild trust, transform painful relational patterns, and support the standard session therapy couples may already be doing. For couples facing betrayal trauma, intensives provide the structure, clarity, and deep relational work needed to start a path forward.

  • What are Relationship Intensives?

    Affair recovery intensives are highly focused, long-form therapy sessions designed to access the heart of your concerns and effectively navigate infidelity, emotional affairs, sexual betrayal, or ongoing trust erosion in a consolidated timeframe. Instead of spreading healing across months of weekly sessions, an intensive focuses essential affair recovery work into a single powerful, structured itinerary.


    Grounded in evidence-informed approaches, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), the Gottman Method, Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), and Relational Life Therapy (RLT), intensives help couples:


    • learn effective communication strategies for discussing the affair safely

    • reduce betrayal trauma symptoms and stabilize emotional reactivity

    • rebuild trust through structured transparency, boundaries, and accountability

    • understand the root causes and patterns connected to infidelity

    • create a shared plan for long-term healing, reconnection, and resilience

    • deepen emotional connection and rebuild sexual and intimate safety

    • reverse destructive cycles  and create resilience from a place of integrity, intention, and accountability

  • Who benefits from intensives?

    Affair Recovery Intensives are often a perfect fit if:


    • your relationship is stuck in painful cycles of repeated conflict, mistrust, guilt, or shutdown

    • you need immediate support and a faster path forward

    • you have difficulty discussing the betrayal without escalating or withdrawing

    • you appreciate deep, experiential work paired with practical tools

    Intensives accelerate the therapeutic process to set an immediate new relational trajectory of accountability, understanding, collaboration, and healing. Clients describe a single day intensive as "like doing 6 months of therapy in a single day." 


    *Therapy intensives are not a substitute for ongoing therapy, crisis services, or higher levels of care. They may not be appropriate for every individual or relationship, and suitability will be assessed prior to scheduling.

  • How do affair recovery intensives work?

    1. Focused Time for Deep Repair

    Weekly sessions include settling in, recapping crises, and winding down. Intensives remove these elements, giving you hours of uninterrupted work.


    2. Stabilization for Betrayal Trauma

    Crisis cycles calm more quickly when partners have sustained support, structure, and guidance for navigating disclosure, triggers, and emotional overwhelm.


    3. Faster, Clearer Progress

    Without gaps between sessions, the work may more efficiently build momentum and avoid the need to play whack-a-mole with any new or distracting concerns that could come up. Rather than repeatedly reacting to new crises, intensive work proactively sets you up for foundational stress reduction as well as the insights and skills for more effective independent navigation of challenges that do come up.

  • How are intensives structured?

    Affair recovery intensives may navigate any of the three phases. 


    Phase 1: Establishing Safety, Containment, & Communication


    • This phase focuses on stabilization, reducing reactive cycles, and introducing structure to help partners engage more intentionally. Emphasis is placed on communication frameworks, pacing, and emotional steadiness that support readiness for deeper relational work in subsequent phases. 

    Phase 2: Establishing Shared Understanding of the Affair


    • This phase focuses on developing a clearer, coherent shared understanding of the affair experience by reducing confusion, clarifying relevant truths, and exploring relational vulnerabilities with accountability and care. The work in this phase is intended to help set the stage for rebuilding ongoing connection and intimacy in Phase 3.

    Phase 3: Constructing Relational Security & Intimacy


    • The intentions in this phase include actionable strategies to support fortifying trust, cultivating intimacy, and developing a shared plan for long-term relational repair, maintenance, connection, and secure functioning.

    This structured progression helps couples effectively move toward a more stable, honest, and connected relationship. However, every couple’s pace is different. 


    Depending on your history, needs, and level of stabilization, an intensive may focus on one, two, or all three phases. Some couples spend the majority of the day establishing safety and containment, while others move naturally into shared understanding or early repair work.


    The goal is not to power through the phases, but to engage in the deepest, most appropriate work your relationship can safely and sustainably hold, and to leave with a clear path for continued healing.

  • What is the cost?

    Investment


    The total fee for a full intensive is $1925, and includes a full day of undivided attention and work, light snacks, take home resources, and a personalized reading list. 


    Intensive clients will also have the option to book a 50 or 90 minute follow up session at a reduced rate to debrief and process the impact of the intensive as well as plan for ongoing connection and support. 


    Half-Day Intensive (4 hours): $1200

    Full-Day Intensive (6 hours with a lunch break): $1925

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Join us, and give yourself the restorative experience of relational healing, connection, and intimacy.

A few things to remember:

Affair recovery work invites insight, clarity, and connection, but as with all therapy, the process is rarely linear, results may vary, and no specific outcome can be guaranteed. Ongoing reflection, practice, or follow-up care is often part of the process.


This work is not appropriate for crisis situations, abusive dynamics, acute symptoms of severe mental illness, or active substance addiction. If you are experiencing thoughts of harm to yourself or others, immediate support through local emergency services, a crisis line, or trusted loved ones is recommended.


For partners that ultimately decide uncoupling is the best way forward, intensive work still supports supports a healthy, respectful process. 

Garden Space Counseling PLLC is intersectionally allied, as well as informed and affirming of LGBTQIA+, ENM, kink, and neurodiversity.