Affair Recovery Intensives

Affair recovery intensives are highly focused, long-form therapy sessions designed to access the heart of your concerns and effectively navigate infidelity, emotional affairs, sexual betrayal, or ongoing trust erosion in a consolidated timeframe. Instead of spreading healing across months of weekly sessions, an intensive focuses essential affair recovery work into a single powerful, structured itinerary.

Grounded in evidence-informed approaches, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), the Gottman Method, Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), and Relational Life Therapy (RLT), intensives help couples:

• learn effective communication strategies for discussing the affair safely

• reduce betrayal trauma symptoms and stabilize emotional reactivity

• rebuild trust through structured transparency, boundaries, and accountability

• understand the root causes and patterns connected to infidelity

• create a shared plan for long-term healing, reconnection, and resilience

• deepen emotional connection and rebuild sexual and intimate safety

• reverse destructive cycles  and create resilience from a place of integrity, intention, and accountability

For partners that ultimately decide uncoupling is the best way forward, intensive work supports supports a healthy, respectful process. 

Affair Recovery Intensives are often a perfect fit if:

• your relationship is stuck in painful cycles of repeated conflict, mistrust, guilt, or shutdown

• you need immediate support and a faster path forward

• you have difficulty discussing the betrayal without escalating or withdrawing

• you appreciate deep, experiential work paired with practical tools

Intensives accelerate the therapeutic process to set an immediate new relational trajectory of accountability, understanding, collaboration, and healing. 

Clients describe a single day intensive as "like doing 6 months of therapy in a single day." 

1. Focused Time for Deep Repair

Weekly sessions include settling in, recapping crises, and winding down. Intensives remove these inefficiencies, giving you hours of uninterrupted work on the most critical aspects of affair recovery.

2. Stabilization for Betrayal Trauma

Crisis cycles calm more quickly when partners have sustained support, structure, and guidance for navigating disclosure, triggers, and emotional overwhelm.

3. Faster, Clearer Progress

Without gaps between sessions, the work builds momentum and clarity and avoids the need to play whack-a-mole with any new or distracting concerns that could come up. Rather than repeatedly reacting to new crises, intensive work proactively sets you up for foundational stress reduction as well as the insights and skills for more effective independent navigation of challenges that do come up.

Affair recovery can be broken down into three phases. 

Phase 1: Establishing Safety, Containment, & Communication

• Goals: Stabilize emotions, reduce withdrawal and reactivity, create structure, and prepare both partners for meaningful engagement.

• Outcome: Partners gain a stabilized foundation, clear communication structure and skills, and emotional safety sufficient to enter Phase 2.

Phase 2: Establishing Shared Understanding of the Affair

• Goals: Create a coherent, shared narrative. Reduce confusion, clarify truths, and address relational vulnerabilities with accountability and understanding. 

• Outcome: A shared, coherent understanding of the affair that provides clarity rather than reactivity, setting the stage for rebuilding, ongoing connection, and intimacy in Phase 3.

Phase 3: Constructing Relational Security & Intimacy

• Goals: Restoring trust, building intimacy, and developing a shared plan for long-term relational repair and maintenance.

• Outcome: A blueprint for relational repair, ongoing security, emotional connection, and gradual rebuilding of intimacy.

This structured progression helps couples effectively move toward a more stable, honest, and connected relationship. However, every couple’s pace is different. Depending on your history, needs, and level of stabilization, an intensive may focus on one, two, or all three phases. Some couples spend the majority of the day establishing safety and containment, while others move naturally into shared understanding or early repair work.

The goal is not to “complete” the phases in a single day, but to engage in the deepest, most appropriate work your relationship can safely hold, and to leave with a clear path for continued healing.

Investment

Affair Recovery Intensives range from $1325–$6425, depending on format (partial, full, or extended). This structure allows you to choose the option that best fits your clinical needs, schedule, and goals for healing and relational repair.

If you'd like, I can also recommend a structure once I understand your situation. No pressure; just information to help you decide what works for you.

Full fee information is provided during your consultation, and you will receive transparent, written confirmation of your exact cost upon scheduling so you can make an informed decision with clarity and confidence.